Alanya Kolberg taught her son a lesson while he was playing at the park and it wasn't appreciated by parents nearby.
When six boys approached Kolberg’s son, Carson, on the playground demanding he share his new toys with them, he became completely overwhelmed and turned to his mom.
"You can tell them no, Carson," she said to him. "Just say no. You don't have to say anything else."
Other parents at the park had an unsupportive response to her comment and many gave her dirty looks. Kolberg felt she needed to explain herself and took to Facebook for her now-viral message. "If I, an adult, walked into the park eating a sandwich, am I required to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No!" she wrote. "Would any well-mannered adult, a stranger, reach out to help themselves to my sandwich, and get huffy if I pulled it away? No again."
She continued to explain that her goal is to teach her child self-care. "The goal is to teach our children how to function as adults," Kolberg explained. "While I do know some adults who clearly never learned how to share as children, I know far more who don't know how to say no to people, or how to set boundaries, or how to practice self-care. Myself included."
Kolberg believes teaching her son how to say “no” is not rude, but instead demanding something that isn’t yours can be.
"While you're giving me dirty looks, presumably thinking my son and I are rude, whose manners are lacking here?" Kolberg asked. "The person reluctant to give his 3 toys away to 6 strangers, or the 6 strangers demanding to be given something that doesn't belong to them, even when the owner is obviously uncomfortable?"
She revealed that Carson brought the toys to share with her friend’s daughter, not with “greedy boys.”
Her post went viral and received over 200,000 shares and 237,000 likes. She did receive backlash for her message, but also had many positive comments.
“There is nothing wrong with teaching them to share AND that they have the choice not to share," one commenter wrote.
"She isn't teaching her children not to share, she's teaching her child comfortability, discretion and control," another person wrote, in response to backlash.
"We don't live in a world where it's conducive to give up everything you have to anyone just because they said so," Kolberg concluded. "I'm not going to teach my kid that that's the way it works."
What do you think about her message?
[H/T Twitter / @DelishDotCom]
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